We all heard the term at BDSM events or in forums, but what it is all about? What does it mean to be primal? Is it a fetish, is a style? We will dig a little deeper and understand what it means. Release your inner animal, here is your crash course on Primal packs.
WHO IS A PRIMAL AND WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
First of all, it is more of a style than a fetish. Being primal is different to everyone and there is no set tone of rules of protocols to follow. To be sexually primal means that one allows their animalistic – Their primal – self out when sexually aroused or during intercourse. You enjoy those basic, raw feelings coming out – whatever they may be. The more nonhuman seeming, the better.
HOW DO PRIMALS PLAY?
Primal sex and play, at times, might resemble a wrestling match in which the stronger or more dominant subdues the weaker. Sometimes it will be more playful, more dirty, more painful. Both parties do what their instincts dictate. There may be pressure points involved and some bondage but what sets primal play apart is the open display of raw emotions, sexual feelings. We forget about labels, roles during a primal play and picture ourselves as animals.
In the BDSM scene, some refer themselves neither as submissive, nor dominant but as primal. Why? Usually, the “dominant” who prefers primal play wants to fight – the pure and abject submission of the “submissive” isn’t what’s come into play.
BEING PRIMAL IS NOT PLAY PET
Most primals identify as particular animals, the most popular being wolfs, cats or apes. The style can be monogamous, by packs or pride or swing. If you join a primal swing, you should be aware of the rituals they establish, know the alpha, etc. Even though primals may engage in pet play, two can be distinctly different. There is no leashes or collars to assert submission and two (or more) partners might fight for dominance with each other. This can be as painful or violent remaining with primals personal limits. Contrary to what we may think, there is safe words, signals or grunts.
WHERE DOES A PRIMAL PLAY TAKE PLACE?
Like any fetish, it can happen anywhere. However, the favored environment is doing it outside, in nature, Keep a blanket or a tent in your truck for sudden urges. f you’re going to do some of the more edgy types of primal play in a public play space, be sure to let the DM’s know what it is you are doing. A primal play is just that…primal, and it can be disturbing to observers who may not be familiar with the concept of an s-type actually fighting back in earnest.
DOES IT INVOLVE TOYS?
Most of the primals enjoy a more hands-on approach to play, and no expensive tools or toys are required. You were born with all the kink toys you need for playing primal: teeth, nails, hair, and skin.
Primal play can involve biting, scratching, growling, grunting, roaring, screaming – animal like sound, hair grabbing and hair pulling. Because of the roughness, stuff can also happen like accidental elimination. Keep a towel and baby wipes as well as alcohol handy. Primal play involves amounts of fear play and rough body contact play – some associate primal play with edge play.
Like any group of kinksters, primals sometimes gather in groups called packs. This small community may have a strict hierarchy with each individual understanding their place in the pack. Most of the time, the group will consist of one Alpha. Fight for dominance might happen to naturally elect a new Alpha – much like a wolf pack of a lion pride. It is not about physical strength; the best leader is the most competent person taking care of all the group.
NOT ALL ABOUT SEX
Not all primals are constant fuck fest – the pack can be a safe place when life gets rough. It is a group allowing to fuck, fight or cuddle depending on specific needs. For many packs, the purpose is to build trust among members and create their own family. It is to join a group that embraces your self-expression and who you are as a person, regardless of your kinks.
Alpha ― The leader of a primal pack or pairing, the most dominant. (Sometimes, in a pack, there will be an alpha pairPredator ― A primal who takes on the role of the animal hunter who desires to capture prey
Prey ― A primal who takes on the role of the animal hunted who desires being captured by the predator hunter ― Someone who takes the role of the human hunter to catch and subdue the animal
Mate ― One you form a bond with through sex and other play
Pet ― (not exclusively primal), someone you might have sex with, but who are not accorded the rank of mate
Furry ― (Not exclusively primal or BDSM), one who enjoys giving emotions and feelings to animals with human-like tendencies and features