Many people are single for various reasons. Some don’t want to bother with relationships, others are tired of trying, and there are those who just want to have fun. However, did you know that you can kiss and cuddle without it leading to sex? If people can have sex without being in a relationship, why can’t they kiss and cuddle as well?
We offer you some non-traditional relationship advice.
Fuck Buddy Era
We live in a fuck buddy era. Many people are no longer looking for relationships, and instead, they just want someone to have sex with. This is also known as having friends with benefits. The type of people that are looking for fuck buddies is those who aren’t interested in anything else that is part of a traditional relationship. They don’t want the responsibility. They usually find it to be a burden, and they just want to enjoy themselves.
While this is not bad per se, there are many people who aren’t suitable for this lifestyle. This is especially true for those who can easily fall in love and get emotionally invested. One of the main downsides of friends-with-benefits relationships is that it’s not rare that one person falls in love. This can be a deal-breaker. In the end, they will probably get hurt since the other person clearly doesn’t want to get in a traditional relationship.
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Our Need for Cuddles and Kisses
When it comes to casual sex and non-traditional relationships, some of the most important things that are missing from that formula are cuddling and kisses. Of course, the couple will kiss during sex, but it’s not the same as sharing affection without an end-goal in mind, which is something that most people miss. Humans love cuddling. It feels nice, and it is a different way to explore closeness and relationships.
Unfortunately, a fuck buddy won’t stay long enough for you to cuddle, and they might not be interested in it at all. People fail to understand that closeness doesn’t always have to be about sex, and it isn’t the only way to feel good.
So the main problem is finding someone to share intimate moments with, but not just sex, i.e., to also share everything that comes with a real relationship. The main downside of this arrangement is probably the same as with having a friend with benefits — developing feelings.
The New Normal
Being single can be quite difficult. You miss affection, closeness, and having a companion in your life. Naturally, you will also miss having sex as well, but that’s not the most important part. It is not rare for single people to miss basic things like hugging, and it can be rather lonely to live in a world without hugs.
In the past couple of years (maybe even decades), people have become more open about their feelings, sexuality, and desires, which is a great thing. People no longer need to hide how they feel and what they desire, and it is a huge step for the entire humanity. With that in mind, you can always try and find a friend with benefits, but those benefits are actually hugging and kissing.
Since most single people will miss this part of the relationship the most, they would be more than willing to share emotions with you without all the downsides that come with sex. One of the main problems with friends having sex is that it will usually turn out bad. You might lose your friend in the end, and it will be pretty awkward to spend time together after you have seen them naked.
However, with cuddling, there are no downsides. You can enjoy closeness without bringing sex into it, which will eliminate the possibility of things becoming weird between you two. It is also a lot easier to find a cuddle buddy than it is to find a person for sex. There are different people out there, and for some, having sex will pose no problem for their friendship. However, the majority of people should leave sex out of it and enjoy simple cuddling instead.
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It’s Not for Everyone
Finding a kissing buddy might not be a perfect choice for everyone. As we have already mentioned, each of us is different, and some people might not miss cuddling at all. Others might get too emotionally invested over time, and things can get complicated.
The reason why cuddling and kissing can be problematic is that they can get too hot for some people. It is not rare for cuddling to lead to sex, and if you are looking to avoid complicating your relationship with sex, it might get tricky.
If you are having a good time, you might think that it would get even better if you took it to the next level. Who knows — maybe it would. It is also possible to make the entire relationship with your friend uncomfortable.
The best thing about it is that it can stay just the way it is. You and your friend can be cuddling buddies and do your best for it to stay that way. You don’t need to add another element, and it can still be an incredible experience that both of you will enjoy.